This can be rooted in fear of rejection and an intense desire of wanting to be liked, but we’re never going to be liked by everyone. On top of that in many instances, people pleasers in can often end up feeling left out or rejected anyway, or resentful about feeling as though they give far more than they receive in return. Because they try to be everything to everyone, it also comes across as incredibly wishy-washy and that’s an unattractive quality to most people, because then you feel like you never get to really know that person. You’re missing out on creating lasting bonds, deep relationships, and cultivating that true connection.
People pleasing is the equivalent of going through life with a full body suit of armour on, and in a constant battle with yourself and with those around you rather than taking the armour off, experiencing a few wounds, and allowing the wounds to heal and growing stronger as a result.