I touched on Homelander in my last Sunday Serial in nominatng The Boys for a pick. I don’t think he’s terribly hard to figure out, even from a purely behavioral level; I don’t think the writers are trying to be subtle with his character or cagey about his development. But still…it was something I wanted to write about.
Homelander’s origins set the foundations for a truly broken character. He was raised from birth in a lab to be the world’s greatest superhero. He never had any parental bonds, and cold Vought scientists constantly tested his powers. Throughout The Boys there are two Homelander personas on display; one persona is the clean-cut superhero adored by the public, and the other is the homicidal monster who privately gets away with murder.
Throughout Seasons 1-2 of The Boys, Homelander’s only weakness was his desire to be loved…What’s wrong with Homelander? It’s not his superpowers. It’s the fact that he’s a full-blown narcissist…[When] Ashley informs Homelander in The Boys Season 3, Episode 3, that his numbers in the popularity polls have skyrocketed…Homelander is genuinely thrilled.
Sounds like a narcissist. What are narcissistic traits?
- Grandiosity and self-importance
- Fantasies of perfection and superiority
- Sense of specialness and uniqueness
- Need for praise and attention
- Strong sense of entitlement
- A tendency to exploit others
- A tendency to exploit others
- Arrogance and scorn
What’s interesting about Homelander, of course, is that some of these are actually true. He is special and unique (he’s the most powerful supe on the planet). It would be hard not to feel that way. But he flips the switch into narc territory because he checks all of the other boxes, too.
So why are narcissists narcissists?
One popular explanation is parenting: too permissive or too critical a parenting style is thought to cultivated the personality disorder. Again, with Homelander, he likely was cultivated in the perfect conditions to become a narcissist. He was grown in a lab, for starters, to be an incredibly powerful superhero. He didn’t experience anything approaching normal attachment to a parent or caregiver. And the expression of his powers surely informed how his caretakers handled him.
From PsychCentral:
Grandiose narcissists, on the other hand, have tended to experience a more avoidant attachment pattern early in their lives which has led them to feel they have to take care of themselves, that they don’t need anyone else, and they should be pseudo-independent.
Again, with Homelander, in addition to being raised in lab conditions, he likely was feared by everyone around him as he realized his powers, He could, in some real (and terrifying) ways, solve his own problems, from the point of reference of being an under-developed but incredibly powerful child.
I’m not going to get into attachment styles here, but they are fascinating to learn about. There are three broad types: avoidance, anxious, and secure. There are some combinations that don’t mix well in relationships (without conscious effort), and some that do. John Bowlby is a psychologist who introduced the framework into the lexicon, but Mary Ainsworth is credited with applying his ideas to adult relationships. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller is a great book if you’re interested in the topic. And psychologizing yourself, if you like.