I’ve been reading Tiago Forte’s Building a Second Brain and am intrigued by his PARA method. I’ve set up the home directory on my OneDrive account that way, and still have to finish this on my Mac. I’ve always had a sense of unease about how I organize (or don’t organize) files on my internal storage as well as in apps like DEVONThink (and now OneNote). My OneNote installation is set up using PARA; I’m committing to using [Raindrop.io][1] more mindfully and am setting it up now using PARA.

Doesn’t count what I lost in January.

Makes the kids roll their eyes.

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This:

It’s a time when a dumbscroll through TikTok will have you hearing about attachment theory or enneagram typing or Myers-Briggs parsing from strangers often (at best) wildly unqualified to speak on it.

Why I fired my therapists

Great retrospective on the 25th anniversary of this iconic Mac.

iMac at 25: a visual history of Apple’s iconic all-in-one computer

The glass-is-always-half-empty angle of losing weight is worrying about gaining it back. This hobgoblin of the mind assails you most notably before a vacation, where you might not be able to exercise in the mode to which you have grown accustomed (read: addicted), and where you will probably eat and drink more than you would at home.

This happened to me for the first time when I started cycling; I knew I wasn’t going to take my bike on vacation back then, and was loathe to disappear for the 90 minutes to two hours most rides take.

The second time this happened, I had gotten into rowing, and again, knew that I wouldn’t be able to row. I did get a list of bodyweight exercises to try and did those on the beach.

This summer I once again found myself worrying about giving up my hard-won gains: would not exercising cause me to gain weight? Would I lapse into old habits?

Happily, though, I managed to do two things: keep it light on the food and drink, and exercise.

For the latter, each morning began with a walk, up the beach, then back up to the hotel. That was usually 2.5 miles. So 300-400 calories to start the day, minus some coffee on the way back. Easy and not surprising.

But the new discovery for me, thanks to the Apple Watch: swimming. Specifically, treading water.

In the hotel pool, on the first day of swimming, I saw that my watch was trying to record an outdoor swim. Once I told to watch to go ahead and record, I learned that just putzing around in the pool was burning around 100 calories every ten minutes. So a half hour was 300 calories, and you can do the math.

I actually got more exercise on vacation. Fear: unfounded.

I came home after one week in Ocean City, NJ, and after a hard 10k row, I weighed exactly what I weighed when I left.

When imposed on us, boundaries can feel upsetting. Because many people view happy relationships as problem free, a request to behave differently can feel like a rejection. Some people—out of trauma or other wounds—interpret a “no” from a loved one as the end of a relationship. But boundaries are supposed to help preserve relationships, not destroy them. “People typically believe that boundaries are to control people, and in actuality, they are safeguards for yourself and for peace and comfort in your relationships,” says the therapist and Drama Free author Nedra Glover Tawwab.

THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD CONCEPT IN PSYCHOLOGY

Your attachment style is not so much a fixed category you fall into, like an astrology sign, but rather a tendency that can vary among different relationships and, in turn, is continuously shaped by those relationships. Perhaps most important, you can take steps to change it. So Arriaga could give her concerned students good news: Attachment style isn’t destiny.

ATTACHMENT STYLE ISN’T DESTINY